Jerk Free: 5 Things to Say to a Woman that Will Make Her Quiver
Romance isn’t assumption, and if you care, remind her. Women may be great at multitasking, but they suck at mind-reading.
Women claim that their husbands simply aren’t affectionate [enough], this according to author Deirdre Bair in her book, Calling It Quits: Late-Life Divorce and Starting Over “for one woman it happened when she asked her husband to help in the kitchen and he shouted angrily for her to keep her voice down so he could hear the television.”
1. You look beautiful
Genuine compliments cost nothing and when the recipient is deserving of one, she ought to be told. Women put effort into how they look, and if they’re going out, they’re doing it to feel beautiful, and for you to notice. Bitesizedonut, a reader on GirlsAskGuys.com, tells us, “It is acknowledging the fact that, while we may be beautiful, we can still be MORE beautiful.”
Get this, according to the sage advice of Rodney Battles, a columnist for AskMen.com, if a women responds “with more than five words” specifically, ‘Thank you, it is kind of you to notice,’ she might be interested in a little more than just the compliment you’ve given her!” What do you think?
This one word holds the potential for creativity and freedom. Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now, recommends saying “yes” instead of fighting or resisting, “yes has enormous power to create stillness,” recommends Tolle. The freedom of the word “yes” lies in its flexibility.
When combined with “I’d love to, but…” it releases you from sounding like a jerk for saying “no,” and avoids the recipient feeling rejected.
3. I appreciate you
“Most women I know enjoy being told, just prior, during, or after the commencing of nude olympics, that the man they’re with finds them attractive or at least non-repulsive in some way,” according to Dr. Ding for Ugo.com. It’s the thought that counts, and when you make her feel wanted with unexpected surprises that don’t fall on birthdays, or anniversaries, you will be doing wonders for her and her self esteem.
4. My treat
In Jane Campion’s movie, Bright Star, Fanny Brawne’s mother advises her that John Keats is a poor suitor, “he has no money.” Mum’s concern is understood. Keats posthumous acclaim and true love notwithstanding, women like being treated and in today’s economy, unpublished poetry won’t even get you to first base. Respect her financial independence, but be a gentleman and pick up the tab.
5. I’ll do the dishes
According to the Journal of Family Issues, married men do less housework than those unmarried. Further findings show women’s perceived marital conflict when it comes to a division of household labor can influence thoughts of divorce.
If she does the cooking, it is only fair that you do the washing up. Besides, doing dishes is appreciated and can lead to foreplay, if she sees you care enough to relieve her of these chores. Many thanks to the lovely Vivian Badashian and Ingrid Haubert, two beautiful friends who suggested this one instead of “I’ll cook.” “Women actually prefer when guys do the dishes; sometimes, the view is a turn on,” Ingrid told me. Vivian agreed, nodding furiously.