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Human beings tend to become personas of circumstances

Written on the notice board of my gym was this simple, but provocative adage, “if you do what you’ve always done, you will get what you’ve always gotten.

Human beings tend to become personas of ourselves; personas that take us through our daily lives. We might be “the boss,” “the dad,” or “the teacher.”  But are these personas our own creation or are they the accidental manifestations of circumstances?

For change to take place, we must go through a process. As the author wrote in “The Invitation,” “there is no way out but through. You cannot go from START to FINISH.”

And, you must prepare yourself for pain — if that scares you, fear is part of being alive. And sometimes, that fear is the proverbial hell so many of us go through.

Accept that fear will never leave us. Every, single time you attempt to follow your dreams, your passions, your deepest desires, the fear will tap you on the shoulder, sometimes slap you on the face, with all of the reasons — reasons you presume are sound —  for not taking the leap. 

The best way to handle the pain –the fear– is to occupy your mind with reaching your goal instead of running from it because in 20 years, you will forget why you said “no” and regret that you didn’t say “yes.”

Here are some tips that has helped me to manifest change :

  • Wake up earlier every morning and write If you don’t know where or how to start, read The Artist’s Way. Do the exercises. If you already find yourself saying, “I don’t have time,” then you are not ready.
  • Just start. You want to lose weight, start a diet. If you fail, start again. If you want to write a book or a blog, start.
  • Exercise. You must exercise. This can be any physical activity that will get your blood flowing and your heart pumping. This burns fat, by the way. If you already find yourself saying, “I don’t have time,” read #1
  • Write to rationalize your thoughts. If you need to end a relationship, write down the reasons why. Ask, “are you satisfied with the way things are going?” It will start the process.
  • Read. Biographies about people you admire. Fictional accounts of events and scenarios you would like to be in. Let your imagination soar. Then do #1.
  • Smile and say hello to a stranger. I know this sounds cliche, but like that Starbucks cup professes, one of two things can happen, “they can ignore you or you can end up marrying them.”
  • Have goals. It gives you direction. It guides you. Without them, you are like a ship, sailing on a sea to nowhere, inevitably derelict on an unsung shore.
  • Write down what you want from life. Seriously. If you don’t know, then who in the world is going to know?
  • Reward yourself. If you did a good job, made progress, effected change, then go ahead and pat yourself on the back, tell yourself you did a good job.
  • “Never, never, never give up.” — Winston Churchill

Upon facing a difficult decision, my dad gave me this simple piece of advice, “be sure that when you shave in the morning, you can look at that person in the mirror.”

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  • Great post. RT @stefanpinto: Human beings tend to become personas of circumstances

    Jeff Rago (@jeffrago)

    1:59 pm

  • This is very thought provoking. Once again, another fine blog Stefan!


    12:22 am

  • Food for thought. As always. Lovely piece.


    7:20 pm

  • Human beings tend to become personas of circumstances via @AddThis

  • Love this! RT @stefanpinto: In 20 years, will you forget why you said “no” and regret that you didn’t say “yes”?

  • Your insight and spirit is a welcome read. You are definitely grounded. I hope all of your dreams come true.


    1:34 am

  • So with this: "If you do what you’ve always done, you will get what you’ve always gotten"

    Nathen Wolf (@natecyph)

    1:24 pm

  • Great post!

    Rona E

    1:23 pm

  • Thank you for these tips Stefan :-) You have a gift for sharing your experiences! Happy Birthday :-)

    Jennifer (Jen) from Facebook ;-)

    1:18 pm

  • Stefan, this is beautiful.

    Simone Cruz

    1:17 pm

  • Great article! How appropriate that you gave birth to such inspiration on your birthday!.. Thank you!


    1:15 pm

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